We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.
All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. A fool spurns a parent’s discipline, but whoever heeds correction shows prudence.
A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.
A person finds joy in giving an apt reply— and how good is a timely word! Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.
I KNOW I am not perfect, But I try to be aware of my tongue and I am trying not set things on fire or poison anyone. I ask for your forgiveness in advance for when I will stumble. And none of this means you need to go around trying to tell everybody what they want to hear...
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Speak the truth with the above definition of love and things will generally work better. (Even difficult truths. Proverbs 27:6 (NIV) Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.)
Again whatever you believe I think you can find the applicable truth here. It is an unruly she bear robbed of her cubs but trying to tame the tongue will be worth it. Even if you have to deliver the hard message it would likely do you well to follow the immortal words of the Reverend Otis Redding and try a little tenderness...
Love you all!